Back in the bad old days when I was still a kid, I used to dream about the coming years. How things will change, how all of my problems will just vanish, how we will become rich & wealthy, how everyone in my family will be healthy & fit. Then after waiting for years, I noticed nothing much had changed. I used to blame others for all of this. My parents didn’t do this, my friends didn’t do that or my greater family didn’t support us. But the issue was not with them, it was with me.
I didn’t take ownership and didn’t take responsibility for my actions. I was sitting around and waiting for others to do things so that things get fixed. That’s not how this world works. You need to take responsibility, you need to take ownership for yourself. You need to work hard and get things done. You can’t control what other people do, you can only control what you do. Expect less, do more. Be lenient in what you accept and be strict in what you put out.
Because when things go wrong in your life no one cares. Your friends don’t care, your family don’t care, your parents don’t care, your partner doesn't care. No one cares. Being an adult is tough and life gets busy. Everyone has their own problems and issues to fix. They are right not to care, getting sympathy for your loss will not help you fix your problems.
All the energy gets wasted when we spend it on worrying about our problems. Instead of getting anxious, we should focus on solutions. We should state the problem, why is it in my life and how can I fix it? What can I do to fix it? It is the best strategy to spend zero minutes on what you could have done. Instead spend time on what you should do now. Because in the end, no one cares. Just fix your life.
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